To all the beautiful mothers gracing my blog with your presence, I hope you had a wonderful day yesterday.
I am SO grateful to have you a part of my tribe.
Today’s video is inspired by my mom. She has a very impressive scarf collection and I’ve found 7 ways to style a scarf as a hair accessory.
Let me know which one is your favorite look in the comments.
Hey Queens! Today we’re going to have a little
show-and-tell as I demonstrate how I achieve a slicked back bun on my Type 4 natural hair.
Believe it or not, this is a challenging style for me to do. It takes quite a bit of arm strength to get my hair to lay down, but I’ve found a way and want to share it with you.
Click the link below to watch as I demonstrate how to achieve a slicked back low bun look. Enjoy:)
Have you had a desire to wear headwraps, but aren't sure how to style them?
I've got you covered.
Headwraps have been a statement piece for women for years and are worn for various reasons. From marital status, to making it a fashionable part of a wardrobe, headwraps are multifaceted.
Please enjoy this YouTube video, demonstrating 5 easy ways to wrap your hair. Make sure you subscribe and let me know your favorite style!
So, what I’ve realized as a natural is that we often wear our hair in it’s curliest natural state more often than not. However, we all have that time of the year when we have to get our ends trimmed and during that process, our hair usually has to be stretched.
A naturalista from my Instagram tribe asked me to provide some hair styling ideas while the natural hair is in a stretched stage. So I am here to deliver.
1: Low Ponytail w/giant scrunchie
2: High Bun w/chopsticks
3: Space Buns
4: Natural Hair Pin-up
5: Rocking a hat!
Those are 5 quick and easy hairstyles you can play with when your hair is stretched!
If you’d like a demonstration, watch my YouTube video here: youtu.be/ZMYcgLIslYA
As always, remember to uniquely and completely YOU!
Well hello beautiful! I hope this blog piece finds you happy, in safe spirits and most of all excited to learn more about caring for your beautiful hair texture.
Last week, on my Instagram page, I posted a picture of my hair in various stages (curly, stretched, etc.). I then asked my tribe if they had a similar texture to mine, to ask me questions pertaining to the maintenance of their hair and I’d answer them from the experience of my natural hair journey thus far.
Before we move on, I’d like to provide some background on the hair type system if you happen to not be familiar with it.
My goal for this post is to help black women understand their hair a.k.a. their crown of glory, in order to take care of it to the best of their ability.
The Hair Typing System was created by Andre Walker, Oprah Winfrey’s hair stylist in the 1990’s. It was originally created to market his line of hair care products, but has widely been adopted as a hair type classification system. Below you’ll find a visual of Walker’s Hair Typing System.
IMPORTANT: Please understand, this is a general synopsis of hair textures. Just like our fingerprint, God created each of us very uniquely. Allow this system to act as guidance toward leading you down the yellow brick road, and you then have to take it from there and learn throughout your journey to Emerald City a.k.a. mastering how to care for your hair. (I love theater! Can you tell?)
Now, on to the questions! I created a YouTube video ( youtu.be/K70uVxVV9yE ) and wrote this blog because unfortunately, I don’t see much representation for my hair texture.
So, I am here to be the change I wish to see and provide any advice I can to help my fellow thick hair beauties love the texture God gave them. Let’s get started!
“I absolutely hate wash day. Any tips for making wash day easier for type 4 hair?
Two things. Number 1, Change your mindset. You have to go in with a positive state of mind. We all know wash day takes time. Setting the atmosphere for a day of self-care and pampering yourself will make wash day much more enjoyable. Number 2, sections are your friend! Taking your hair in sections makes the process much easier and less overwhelming.
What do I do when my hair will not grow?
I can tell you what I’ve done for my hair to grow. I do my best to leave it alone and to do low manipulation. I also keep it in protective styles often.
How often should I clip my ends?
The professionals (from my google research) say getting a trim 3 to 4 times a year will suffice. To me, getting trims is like maintenance on cars. The maintenance for a Honda will be different than the maintenance for a Mercedes. Consult with a local hair stylist that can give you their professional opinion specifically for your hair.
What products do I use?
I use lots of products. I often work with natural hair companies which allows me to try different brands. I can share what I’m using at the moment and that is TPH by Taraji P. Henson’s natural hair line. LOVING it! You can find it at Target or online. I’m also using Melanin Hair Care’s Multi-Use Pure Oil Blend. Also, LOVE.
How often do you wash your hair?
I wash my hair usually once a month. If I feel that it needs to be washed sooner than that, I’ll do so.
What is it like to have 4 type natural hair?
…THE BEST KEPT SECRET!
How do you get your hair to stay stretched for so long?
I stay away from using products that primarily have water in them during the time I’m striving to keep it stretched.
How to love my curly hair?
I would start by getting to know your hair. I would then surround yourself with a natural hair community that understands your hair texture and follow type 4 naturals on social media platforms.
What are some essential products?
1) Leave-in conditioner. 2) Moisturizer/butter. 3) Oil.
I’m running out of hairstyles for my natural hair. Any suggestions?
Add accessories!!! We all go through stages of boredom with our hair. Hair accessories are a great way to spice things up.
I hope this brought you some clarity and inspiration for your natural hair journey.
If you like YouTube videos, click the link here: youtu.be/K70uVxVV9yE
to watch and listen to me answer these questions in more detail.
Be sure to subscribe www.theabnormallife.com/ , on the home page so stay abreast of all uploads!
As always, remember to be uniquely and completely YOU!
Ok...so during quarantine, social distancing is in effect and we have to stay at least 6ft away from each other…and I love it. You wanna know why I’m loving this…
..because no one has tried to touch my hair within the last month!
I’ve talked about my experiences of people touching my hair without asking before, but as I was washing my hair and deciding how I should wear it, I had a total light bulb moment and realized I don’t have to get close enough to anyone for them to touch my hair!! Which, is really sad.
Can I be even more honest with you?
Because so many people try to touch my hair, it’s turned me off from going in to hug people.(sigh)
Why? Because, as I’m hugging them, they’ll catch me off guard and feel my hair as I’m pulling away from the hug, giving me no time to stop them as opposed to them coming from the front.
Look, I know this isn’t a big deal for all women, but it’s a trigger for me. I put in a lot of time for my hairstyles and it's infuriating when someone thinks they can put their hands in my masterpiece…yes, a masterpiece I’ve taken time to create, without permission. This is something attached to my body ya know.
When I tell you to not touch my hair and try to as nicely as possible quickly school you on why lots of African American women don’t want their hair touched, and you comment back with, “Ok, but it just looks so fun” IS NOT OK!
My hair is not a toy for you to touch and play with. Get a dog.
I feel like some people still don’t get it, so let me offer an analogy.
“You’re planning your wedding. You and your soon-to-be-spouse have had two cake tastings to choose the perfect 7 layer cake for your special day. The day has come and the cake looks amazing at your reception. A family member from your spouse’s side that you don’t know that well sticks his/her hand in the cake and says, it looked so cool, I just had to see how it felt!”
Get it now?
With COVID-19 in effect, people are skeptical of what others have touched and choose to wear gloves. That’s exactly how I feel when someone touches my hair without permission.
You’re invading my personal space. (Which is why I’m hesitant with hugging certain people because they then think it’s ok.)
I have no idea where your hands have been previously. (greasy, unwashed, just ate, etc.)
I spend hours to cleanse and style my hair. Someone reaching to touch it, because they feel like it, is disrespectful. Period.
Listen, you don’t have to understand it all. Hairstyles and different textures of hair can be intriguing and that’s all great.
Take that intrigue, and maybe even offer up a compliment, but never touch without permission. Hence why being in quarantine has been absolute heaven for my hair (Her name is Maggie:))
As me and my mane continue to thrive in quarantine, stay safe, remain healthy, enjoy your family and remember what I taught you after quarantine is over. ☺
We are all experiencing a space in time that is forcing us to adjust to a NEW normal. With the coronavirus pandemic, the world is in a stage of social distancing. With social distancing comes remotely working from home. What I like to call, “homeworking” LOL! (Pun definitely intended!)
While working from home, it is definitely more comfortable, but we still have to be ready to take a video call or regular call within minutes. We have to be business on the top but we can be comfortable on the bottom.
A part of being business on the top is your hairstyle.
I’m here to offer some hairstyle ideas that’ll be easy to take care of and don’t take much maintenance, which is what we all need during this time.
1: Braids/Faux locs:
These hairstyles provide the least amount of maintenance and make getting ready in the morning so much quicker than usual. All this style takes is keeping your scalp properly moisturized and covering it regularly at night.
This hairstyle is quarantine approved!
2: High or low bun:
Having a hairstyle that’s slicked down or molded down is easy maintenance as well. All it takes is a secure head wrap at night to make sure everything stays in place. You may have to use a little product every few days if a curl or two decides to pop out; other than that, this hairstyle is quarantine approved!
If you want total coverage and don’t want to be bothered with your hair showing, have a nice and stylish head wrap ready to tie up and go for all of your video calls. There are so many amazing head wrap companies where you can find a few stylish patterns to swap out. Head wrap hairstyles are quarantine approved!
During this time,
I feel that all we can do is help one another with the knowledge we possess and share it with each other in order to make it through this trying time together.
Continue to stay strong and be encouraged. This too shall pass! Stay safe my friends!
Mirror Mirror on the wall, what curls are the prettiest of them all?
ALL OF THEM!
For those of you who aren’t familiar with the term “4C Curls,” it’s a specific type of curl pattern within the natural hair world. Black Girl Hair Magic has so much diversity that we had to break it down into types which help us know what hair products cater best to our hair.
Now, I’m sure there are hair types for all ethnicities, but this post is focused on what I’m familiar with and experience.
Type 4 hair is described as tightly coiled, coarse, and one of the most common hair types found in African American Hair.
There’s a lot more detail explaining hair types, but that’s just the top of the surface information.
SO! As common as 4C hair is said to be, unfortunately, it doesn’t receive as much celebration and love as other hair types.
Let me break it down:
Looser curl textures have been coined as pretty natural hair as opposed to a tighter texture, like my hair which has been called “nappy”. The way nappy is said most definitely comes with a negative connotation.
That’s from my very own experience as well as what I’ve seen within the community.
People with my texture have also been charged more in the hair salon because our hair is said to take much more work.
It’s very unfortunate but true. I’ve even had some of my followers reach out to me sharing their personal and very vulnerable natural hair stories. One of my very sweet supporters allowed me to share her story:
Here’s another example to show you some of the challenges that come with having natural thick hair. Click below:
Although society has their own standard of beauty, we do not have to conform to what they say is acceptable. As I write this, I’m encouraging myself too, because it gets hard at times going against the grain even when you know what you’re doing is right.
But if we stick together and celebrate each other, it will help the journey of each of us appreciating all the unique ways God created us much easier.
I represent 4C Hair type women because I saw a significant gap in representation.
So here I am today, using my platforms to make sure that 4C women feel equally as celebrated and admired as other hair types. Continue to follow my social media platforms for tips and advice on 4C Hair.
If you’ve never heard that your hair is beautiful, let me be the 1st to say…YOUR HAIR IS GORGEOUS!!!
Stick with it sis.
In a world where there is SO much going on throughout each and every day, how do you keep up with all you have to do? Do you have an amazing memory that takes no exercise of writing things down? Or are you a go-with-the-flow type person that sees where the day takes you?
Well, the first thing is to know who you are and what you need.
I’d like to call myself an organized creative.
I have my days when I set out time to allow my creative juices to flow, and sometimes it’s hard to put a time stamp on that. However, I like to use my time wisely, and that’s where my planner comes to my rescue. I should really call her my ride-or-die because she’s always in the front seat riding shot gun or not far from me lol.
As creative as I am, I appreciate a daily to-do list and like to know what events and availability I have throughout the day, which gives me the opportunity to be prepared. Preparation is definitely key.
In grade school, one of my favorite parts of the beginning of the year was getting our annual school planner. And although I didn’t use it like I should’ve lol, I still had the desire to be organized.
Fast forward to now.
I have fallen in love with reaping the benefits of being organized and the structure it adds to this fast pace life we live.
So let’s get into it! Let me introduce you to my planner of the year:)
Before using the planner I have now, I was a huge fan of the Lilly Pulitzer planners. I spotted one at Dillard’s and fell in love.
It was sooo cute (elephants on the cover), it was hard back and it had a good amount of space for me to write my tasks for each day. (I need good room to write in my planners.)
I rocked with Lilly Pulitzer for about three years and got others to fall in love with it too. However, I began to want a bit more within my planner.
My mom then introduced me to The Happy Planner.
I remember when she got her first Happy Planner. She was SO excited and made sure she had all the stickers, washi tape, and added in papers to make her planner just like she wanted it.
I did not understand all the hoop-lah about this so called Happy Planner. But as I started searching for a new planner, she convinced me to give it a try, so I did.
I am still within my first year of having my Happy Planner and I’m loving it!! This is what I like about it:
I could go on and on about why I am really enjoying my first time using The Happy Planner. If you’d like me to go into more detail and do a video on my Happy Planner, let me know in the comments.
I hope this encouraged you to have fun with your planning! Make it exciting. If you are in search of a planner, give The Happy Planner a try. You can find them at Michael’s, Joann Fabrics and their official website.
What planner do you use?! Let me know in the comments!
Women’s History Month is a month commemorating and encouraging the study, observance, and celebration of the vital role of women in American History.
This week, I’ve chosen to celebrate female music that graces my ears, uplifts my moods, gets me through situations and most of all makes me proud to be a women!
So let’s get into it!
My knees bumped against the edge of the stage as I stood front and center waiting patiently for Tank and the Bangas to grace the stage. As I waited, I enjoyed, clapped and sang along to the opening acts that came before them (@underdogcentral and @maggiekoerner)
Before the band got on stage, I had taken my bathroom breaks and re-filled my drinks so there was no excuse for me to leave my spot. (Determined much?!)
As I stood there with my feet planted, I looked to the right and saw that all the windows were fogged up as a result of how packed it was in the place.
I just knew it was going to be a good night :)
As the band got ready to come on stage, we saw them outside and began chanting for them, which got them GEEKED UP!
The tone was set.
We greeted them with yells, hand claps and smiles as they got on stage. As they began to play, we anticipated the big moment of Tarriona “Tank” Ball coming on stage.
The time felt like it crept by (it wasn’t a long time at all lol). She finally came through the door and danced her way on stage like only Tank can.
I was ready for this whole vibe they were about to give us all night…and boy, did they deliver.
Now, yes, I do social media marketing, so getting footage of the show is necessary, however, with the day an age we live in now, holding a phone the whole time can take away from the true experience.
I am really big on being present in the moment.
I like to look, connect with, and see the band through my own original lens, not the lens of a camera or phone.
This concert gave me everything and so much more. It wasn’t just a band singing, they provided us with an experience.
This experience could only be described as one of a kind. From the flutes, to the poetry, to the saxophones, to the dancing, to the lyrics, I could go on and on. Most of all, we all enjoyed ourselves because the band enjoyed performing and we felt that energy.
As we began to get towards the end of their set, I was already elated with joy, but the way my God works, He was like...”Nah, let me blow your mind.”
Tank called me up on stage to dance with her (PAUSEEEE FOR SUPER DRAMATIC EFFECT!). Yep, you read right. She called me and another girl that were in the front row to dance with her.
I said yes, like a 5 year old (smh), handed my phone to my friend that I enjoyed the concert with (Hey, Bianca!) and got on stage.
I GOT MY ENTIRE LIFE!! Here’s the entire video of us dancing. (Thanks for the footage, Corbin!)
Y’all, I was bursting like confetti after coming off the stage. What an experience.
Besides dancing on stage, the other favorite part of my night was conversing with the band after the show.
Cool, cool people. While we talked to them, we wished they had more time to explore our city but we learned how strenuous their tour/travel schedule is. It’s definitely something you have to love.
To Tank and The Bangas:
Thank you. Thank you for all the planes, trains, and buses it took you to get to us and everywhere you go. I know the wear and tear and distance from your family and friends is a sacrifice. We thank them for lending y’all to us and I wish you much success in the future.
Below, I will list more female artists that I listen to. Explore their music and enjoy!
P.s.: Leave me some female artists suggestions below! I love finding new music.
1: Tank and the bangas- youtu.be/QKzobTCIRDw
2: Lianna LaHavas - youtu.be/9HUV5a7MgS4
3: Kim Burrell - youtu.be/4QosUfAkzbI
4: Chloe and Halle - youtu.be/MFxqp_wOUx8
5: Lala Hathaway - youtu.be/ofP0qftqWvY